A friend just got out of a relationship with a guy who wasn't really up to her caliber — he was tall and handsome, but also controlling and untrusting. After a year or so in love, they finally ended their relationship, and she's finally feeling happy and free and, most importantly, ready to date. A friend of a friend introduced her to a new guy, and on their first date, she mentioned that he
- was standing outside of his car, waiting for her to come out so he could open the car door for her,
- did not take out his phone once while they were out, and she legitimately has no idea what type of a phone he has because she never saw it,
- noticed that she was a bit cold and without a thought, took off his jacket and put it around her shoulders.
As we're hearing this story and getting giddy in the lunch room, the mood shifts slightly, and we all wonder aloud:
Why is it that when a guy opens a door or gives us his undivided attention or puts a coat over us, we feel surprised/smitten? Why are these acts of decency seen as rarities?